I think every thing that happens the way it does for the necessary outcome. Don't believe me, let me rewind and see IF you agree.
Have you ever caught yourself thinking, "what IF so and so happened?" Then such and such would occur. Doesn't seem like a big deal really, but isn't it? That is what prompted this blog today. I got thinking about a what IF moment and realized all of the other IFs involved.
I had my first "true" love in college. Yes, I had some short term boyfriends before I met my ex, but he was the first guy I went out with for longer then a month or two. My memory is sort of fuzzy on length of time, but it was darned near close to two years we were together. Thankfully, he got tired of me and broke up with me for the girl who lived above me in the dorms. But what IF he didn't?
Flash to somewhere in the midwest where my now husband was in a relationship with a woman that he thought maybe was "the one". Fortunately she didn't agree. But what IF she did?
See where I'm going with this? IF my ex didn't dump me and IF Brad's ex didn't say No, then there would be no chance at the "We" for the last 23 years, get it?
Let me expound further, IF my parents hadn't decided to plan a last family style vacation that I said I'd love to go on, a cruise to the Caribbean, my last semester senior year in college, and IF said cruise didn't get cancelled and IF my parents didn't say, "Ok, a cruise to Mexico to replace it would be fine". Where would I be?
This is fun! One more time on the yang side of this yin. What IF Brad didn't win that contest at work for selling the most lots? And what IF when he got out to LA to board the boat he did indeed walk away when he saw the amount of blue hairs boarding??
Ping pong back to me! What IF we did miss our flight to LA because we got stuck in that awful traffic at Kennedy? What IF they didn't call down to the gate and hold the plane for the handful of us racing to catch that flight? What IF airport security is what it is now, yikes!! I shudder to think.
The plot thickens...more IFs to consider!
What IF I wasn't social and able to introduce myself to a girl right around my age on the cruise and ask IF she wanted to go to the singles night on board the ship after we got done with dinner? What IF she said no because she did have a boyfriend at the time?
Here's my favorite, what IF I wasn't a hypocrite that evening? What IF I did stick to my guns and tell any guy that asked me to dance to Screw off like I had just told my newly found friend I was going to do? My heart had just been smashed to bits by my ex, I was over men for awhile, or so I thought. What IF I decided that Coronas and Pina Colodas were going to be the only things I cozied up with the next few days?
And what IF Brad didn't want that beer badly enough to ask me to dance because that was the only way he was getting a drink from the bartender? What IF he didn't find my NY accent as charming as he did lol??
What IF I closed my mind to the possibility of love at first sight? What IF I decided to be level headed and sensible?
What IF I didn't get that dozen long stemmed red roses from Brad that day thanking me for a terrific time? What IF we didn't talk on the phone every day after that until we saw each other again? What IF my father didn't say I could go visit Brad for his birthday? What IF Brad didn't come in March after meeting me in January, and take me to Niagara Falls to propose to me?
Flash to somewhere in the midwest where my now husband was in a relationship with a woman that he thought maybe was "the one". Fortunately she didn't agree. But what IF she did?
See where I'm going with this? IF my ex didn't dump me and IF Brad's ex didn't say No, then there would be no chance at the "We" for the last 23 years, get it?
Let me expound further, IF my parents hadn't decided to plan a last family style vacation that I said I'd love to go on, a cruise to the Caribbean, my last semester senior year in college, and IF said cruise didn't get cancelled and IF my parents didn't say, "Ok, a cruise to Mexico to replace it would be fine". Where would I be?
This is fun! One more time on the yang side of this yin. What IF Brad didn't win that contest at work for selling the most lots? And what IF when he got out to LA to board the boat he did indeed walk away when he saw the amount of blue hairs boarding??
Ping pong back to me! What IF we did miss our flight to LA because we got stuck in that awful traffic at Kennedy? What IF they didn't call down to the gate and hold the plane for the handful of us racing to catch that flight? What IF airport security is what it is now, yikes!! I shudder to think.
The plot thickens...more IFs to consider!
What IF I wasn't social and able to introduce myself to a girl right around my age on the cruise and ask IF she wanted to go to the singles night on board the ship after we got done with dinner? What IF she said no because she did have a boyfriend at the time?
Here's my favorite, what IF I wasn't a hypocrite that evening? What IF I did stick to my guns and tell any guy that asked me to dance to Screw off like I had just told my newly found friend I was going to do? My heart had just been smashed to bits by my ex, I was over men for awhile, or so I thought. What IF I decided that Coronas and Pina Colodas were going to be the only things I cozied up with the next few days?
And what IF Brad didn't want that beer badly enough to ask me to dance because that was the only way he was getting a drink from the bartender? What IF he didn't find my NY accent as charming as he did lol??
What IF I closed my mind to the possibility of love at first sight? What IF I decided to be level headed and sensible?
What IF Brad didn't go out with his friend right after he got back to Chicago and what IF his friend didn't point out to him what a mistake it would be to not see me again regardless of distance? What IF Brad could stop talking about me, and thinking about me? What IF I didn't stay with him the way that I did? Eeep!
The wheels were set in motion and our destinies were bound together by the IFs at this point.
Some incidental IFs now occur that seal our fates:
What IF I didn't get that dozen long stemmed red roses from Brad that day thanking me for a terrific time? What IF we didn't talk on the phone every day after that until we saw each other again? What IF my father didn't say I could go visit Brad for his birthday? What IF Brad didn't come in March after meeting me in January, and take me to Niagara Falls to propose to me?
What IF we listened to all of the naysayers. The people swearing we'd be divorced due to our ages and length of time we'd been together? Well ha ha on you people, still here, still married and still happy woot!! You'll be the first to know IF that changes, don't worry....
Here are some honorable mention IFs just for kicks and giggles:
Here are some honorable mention IFs just for kicks and giggles:
What IF we didn't do flaming shots and I didn't burn my lips
What IF we didn't go to Senior Frogs and dance on tables
What IF we didn't find a small group of friends to hang out with every night? One of them was in our wedding even!
What IF I didn't win the Beer Drinking contest (that was the day Brad said in his mind he swore he was going to marry me lol) beating out male and female competitors alike?
We all have our IFs in life (see, there is an "if" in the l"if"e lol). Where did your IFs lead you? Can you imagine what your future would be if it weren't an IFfy proposition?
Yep, time to break into my favorite IF song again. Yes IF you made my dreams come true :)
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